My adoptive family – the fa’a’amu in question
‘A little suffering for a great deal of love…,’ simple words used by Marco to summarize the act of this couple who have returned to Tahiti to search for their second child. After several weeks of fruitless searching, he provides clear-sighted vision that it is a price worth paying; he knows that their efforts will be rewarded at the end. He has already been through this procedure for his first son, Tomy. Therefore, they are not discouraged, or almost not, and will not give up hope during the seven long months, to find a little brother or sister for their son. Ambivalence is constantly present throughout this documentary, something between a sentiment of disgust confronted by this couple who have almost come to “go to market” in Tahiti and their obvious love and the generosity. Unfortunately, we have to face facts, Sylvana, the mother of the future Luzon, does not find it as easy as her husband to hand over her daughter and the separation is very difficult for her. A subdued impression for this ‘shared, mutual gift’ at the end, with even so a more positive final touch, through a tender and moving production that we owe to Eliane Koller.
An emotional public…
Pascale, 54 years old
‘The subject is very moving. I really enjoyed it.’
This is a subject close to my heart because I adopted a little boy, in Russia, and the procedure there is very different. It is nothing like this exchange that I find tremendous. But I also have other children and frankly, my heart was torn for this mother who hands over hers. It is something that I could not have done with my own. The subject is very moving. I liked it a great deal.
Françoise, 47 years old
‘I liked the simplicity of this film’
I liked the simplicity of this film and the way in which it is filmed. It is full of emotion of course and there is above all this spontaneity with the images, in the situations that we see which, in my mind, makes the subject of the film stand out even more. We, Europeans, do not have this custom but it is truly good to see the direct and natural way in which it happens.
Geneviève, 56 years old
‘It is an emotional story in particular’
I had already seen the television report and it is always very moving to see mothers looking for children in general. What is specifically and particularly moving is that the mother accompanies…Thus we are facing two families, with their different emotions. It is far removed from being administrative it is really an emotional story. And in the end, it is really heavy. It’s strange perhaps, but compared with what happens in other countries, I think it’s great, it is perhaps healthier.
Boleslaw, 72 years old
I enjoyed finding out more about this method of adoption which is in effect very different to what is practised in other European countries, notably in France. There are advantages and disadvantages to this approach. Due to finding the family, meeting and accepting sharing the child and relationships between the two families is very interesting and yet, in the film, there is a woman who is happy, the one who comes for the baby, and a sad mother, because in spite of all the precautions, she lets her child go, hers, the one that she created.